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A Tangle of things.

It was a week of intentional distractions from the stress of a situation that’s 100% out of my control.

Don’t you love those?

God, grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change…
Courage to change the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference.

Okay, God. I’m on it.  I get it. I can’t do anything about it.

Nothing. Nada. Zero. Not a thing.

So of course I only say “but maybe,” “if only,” “but just” and “but what if” about a thousand times a day.

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Just do it! with bullets!

#journallife

Journaling is a great way to self-manage your mental and physical health, improve cognition and boost creativity. It’s also really satisfying. And PositivePsychology came up with 83 Actual Benefits!!

Here are some links to websites that help you figure out the best approach for your needs. There are so many ways to journal. And you don’t have to be a writer. You might just want to make lists. You might like bullet lists. You might prefer calendars. Personally, I keep a daily journal using DayViewer.

I also journal in greater detail by event. For that, I tend to use MicroSoft OneNote. I like OneNote because it automatically updates while you’re adding to it throughout your meeting, event or day. I use OneNote on both PC and Mac. I use it on PC for work and on Mac for other stuff.

Check out Bullet Journal and Journal Buddies. Both very cool. And completely different!

In case you’re overwhelmed by the thought of a journal or intimidated by the thought of writing, good news! You don’t have to produce anything amazing. My journals are made up of phrases and lists and words and curse words and exclamation points and doodles and quotes and, quite often, the word DUH. Although sometimes I type it this way: D.U.H.

More on journaling later. In the meantime, think about yours!

Or at least put journaling on your list!

With bullets!

xoxo, dee

Great CBT Podcast!

All about CBT and how it works and how it can help you!!

Dr. Julie Osborn, a therapist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), shares her experiences in the field and helps her listeners; addressing the issues they face and the situations they find themselves in. CBT is a short-term, goal-orientated psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem solving. Dr. Osborn teaches how cognitive behavioral therapy can be used everyday in our lifelong pursuit of happiness.

  • MAY 28, 2021

Self-Sabotage

Self-Sabotage

Do other people get annoyed with you because you act or react a certain way?Do you feel like you’re always messing up or losing relationships because of certain behaviors?Do you feel hopeless and stuck in an endless pattern of negative thoughts and automatic reactions?In this episode, Dr Julie h…

  • MAY 21, 2021

How To Reframe Your Feelings

How To Reframe Your Feelings

Do you struggle with negative feelings – anxiety, loneliness, depression, resentment, anger, fear?Do you wish you could just make them all go away?In this episode, Dr Julie shares with you a CBT technique that will empower you to reframe your thoughts and feelings in a positive way, bringing yo…

  • MAY 14, 2021

Are You Judging Me?

Are You Judging Me?

Do you feel exhausted trying to keep up with other people’s expectations of you?Do you feel like you’re constantly being judged?In this episode, Dr Julie looks at the insecurities and anxieties many of us feel in response to other’s perceived judgement of us. She explains some of the reasons these in…

  • MAY 7, 2021

How To Assert Yourself

How To Assert Yourself

Do you struggle to communicate your desires and preferences?Do you feel like people walk all over you and you are powerless to change it?In this episode, Dr Julie talks about what it means to be assertive in a healthy way, how it can benefit you and how to do it. Using the power of Cognitive Beh…

  • APR 30, 2021

Understanding Personality Disorders

Understanding Personality Disorders

What is the difference between personality quirks and a personality disorder?Why do people have personality disorders?If you’re in a relationship with someone with a personality disorder, what is the best way to deal with that? In this episode, Dr Julie Osborn helps demystify personality disorders, ex…

Don’t you forget about me.

Very Good Pleasure To Meet You (w/ Andrew McCarthy)

Literally! With Rob Lowe

In which Rob and actor/author/director Andrew McCarthy discuss their lives in and out of the Brat Pack, Andrew’s new memoir Brat: An ‘80s Story, directing young actors, showing up prepared, sobriety, and the undying legacy of Weekend At Bernie’s. Plus: Rob answers a question about getting through high school in the LoweDown Line. Got a question for Rob? Call our voicemail at (323) 570-4551. Your question could get featured on the show!

Chuckie’s in Love

Wow. Two of my favorites! Marc Maron interviewing Ricki Lee Jones.

WTF with Marc Maron Podcast

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Episode 1228 – Rickie Lee Jones

Rickie Lee Jones is, first and foremost, a storyteller. She realized at a young age that she could process her feelings and tell her own story through the fiction of songs. As she tells Marc, that same impulse prompted her to write a memoir in which she could present her life story through the narrative of her extended family of vaudevillians. Rickie Lee and Marc also talk about her formative and tumultuous relationship with Tom Waits and why it’s hard for her to reminisce about her early albums and the hits that made her a star. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Yeah.

Introverts win the pandemic!!

We did better! Yay for us!

Introverts Rule

I love Introvert, Dear ….the website that praises me daily for being the exact way I am.

Here’s some cool science that explains why INTROVERTS WON THE PANDEMIC!! Woo hoo!

Science April 23, 2021

Introverts Had an Advantage During COVID-19, Study Finds

by Tandice Ghajar Strausbaugh

An introvert in a good mood

Introversion provided a buffer for dealing with a major life stressor, and even allowed people to come through it “better” than before.

In the spring 2020 semester at the University of Vermont, a group of researchers and doctors began a study on nearly 500 first-year college students to obtain data on wellness activities and mental health. Then COVID-19 hit and the campus went remote.

As you might have guessed, the study didn’t go as planned, but what came out of it were some surprising findings about how personality affects resilience and well-being. Every day, the students in the study used a phone app to rate their moods and stress levels, as well as any wellness activities they did (like exercise, mindfulness, and sleep). 

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Visit Yourself.

I got this nice little list of tips from the amazing Tara Brach in my email this week! So good!

If you aren’t doing everything Tara Brach tells you to do (e.g., suggests or inspires), then get on it now. Her guidance is easy to implement and it is instantly helpful.

8 Essential Tips to Nourish Your Meditation Practice


1. Practice daily, even if for a short time

Mindfulness is a present centered, non-judging awareness. With practice, you’ll find you are increasingly at home in your life—peaceful, clear and openhearted. This allows for a natural connectedness and intimacy with others.

The poet Rumi asks: Do you make regular visits to yourself? Whether it’s 5-minutes, 15-minutes, or 45-minutes, what most matters is the rhythm of a daily practice. It’s helpful to have a preset time, rather than leaving it for when you’re “in the mood”; and to practice in a place that is quiet, protected and conducive to presence.

2. Attitude is everything

The biggest reason people quit meditation is because they judge themselves for how they are practicing. Please don’t turn meditation into a “should,” another domain of self-critique! Instead, choose to cultivate mindfulness because you care about living true to your heart.

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